Mr./Mrs. Right? or Wrong?

Wow. That was a shocking and somewhat random bunch of pieces. Well, first of all I don’t think there is any one ideal Mr. or Mrs. Right that would fit the mold for every person. I think it is an individual choice on whether or not a person feels right for someone else. There is no specific checklist that every woman or man uses when picking someone to date/marry/etc. That being said, clearly the woman in the “It’s not about the nail” clip wants a man who can just listen to her explain her problems without trying to tell her what her problems are. She wants him to accept her, flaws, nails, and all. And as a woman, or anyone really, I can relate to that. Sometimes I just want to complain about everything without someone trying to tell me what to do about it or trying to fix things for me. I can see how this can be frustrating for a man who experiences this in a relationship because I feel like generally they just want to know what the problem is and find a way to fix it and move on.

It’s no wonder men get frustrated with women! Just kidding. I had to find a tie-in to the other article and there it is. Abuse is nothing to joke around about. A statistic according to the “Women and Girls in the Criminal Justice System” states that overall, 26.2% of arrests in the United States were female. It also talks about the main contributing factors for women being arrested or imprisoned are due to substance abuse, mental illness, and spousal abuse. I can see how even those factors could tie into one another: woman is depressed, husband gets frustrated with her gloomy mood and starts abusing her, so she begins to drink excessively or take prescription pills and eventually it causes her to commit some type of crime. Obviously that is not how every case would go, just a possible scenario. And many couples may marry before they truly know one another causing tension in the relationship, but rather than getting divorced they try to tough it out making tensions worse and worse. The divorce rate is so high because this happens too often; people marry for the wrong reasons or marry before they truly know the person they’re taking lifelong vows with. As with the Princeton article or the Monstrous dating profile video, it is easy to see how people marry or get together for the wrong reasons whether it be looks or money. We see it time and time again in real life or in movies: old man marries young woman for her looks and she marries him for his enormous fortune. Look at Hugh Hefner for goodness sake. How many young women has he married? Too many to count. And what would their interest in him be, aside from fame and fortune? I don’t think it would be for the sex because by the looks of the women he marries, they could certainly have a younger, hotter…did I say younger?...man to marry. He just might not give them the fame or fortune. It disgusts me quite honestly.

           

Then there is the Trifles story. It actually frustrated me immensely how rude the men in that story treated the women. Like they couldn’t have anything on their minds but quilting or cleaning. It’s not like the women stand up for themselves, although they do try to stand up for Mr. Wright’s wife. I would say this story is from a time when women did not have the rights they do now and they were more inferior to men, but who am I kidding? It may have been from that time but that type of treatment from men to women still occurs often today, obviously not as much, but some men today still feel the need to put women “in their place”. Yet some women tend not to leave their “Mr. Right” because he “loves” her and supports her (financially and otherwise).

“Hanging Fire” is this sad poem about an adolescent girl who wants to grow up but is afraid she might not make it there. She is just beginning to realize how the color of her skin affects her life, likely because it is the time of puberty and such. On top of that the boy she loves is still too childish, but so is she whether or not she realizes it. And through all of this she has no one to turn to for help or care because her mom closes herself off from her daughter. She wants a fairy tale but is realizing her life is real. Too real.